Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Day 2

How did you do with Day 1? I had every intention of being patient, but I will admit I struggled a bit. I even said, "I am trying to be patient but you are making it difficult" Sometimes, it is hard to be patient.

*Newcomers, there is no reason you cannot pick up and start today. Even if you do not believe in my religion [Christianity] or ANY religion, applying these principles and accepting these dares will change your marriage.

Day 2 is to be completed February 4, 2009
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other,
just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. -Eph. 4:32

Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing. When you're kind, people want to be around you. They see you as being good to them and good for them.

Kindness can
be broken down into four categories: Gentleness (You're sensitive, Tender, Speaking the truth in love), Helpfulness (Being kind means you meet the needs of the moment), Willingness (Kindness inspires you to be agreeable. Instead of being obstinate, reluctant, or stubborn, you cooperate, you stay flexible), and Initiative (Kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step).

the kindness
of love
in Luke 10
[the parable of the Good Samaritan]

It is difficult to demonstrate love when you feel little to no motivation. But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems no reward. You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness.

Today's Dare.
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse (what! we can't forget yesterdays lesson?!?!) Do at least ONE unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

**If you want to go a step further, share what your act of kindness is going to be..some of us may need an idea or two! :0)


Kristina P. said...

This is a great idea! Done!

Gwen said...

I tried so hard also but a husband throwing a fit over a missing hammer is just too hard to be patient with. I'm in for Day 2!!!

THEhooahwife said...

Yesterday went pretty well! I'm going to have to figure out something to do for today...


Employee No. 3699 said...

This one is harder. My husband travels alot and is currently out of town. I'm trying to think of something to do...

Lindsey said...

I am going to surprise Garth with a homemade dinner before he goes to school!

Mrs. McB said...

I've been doing this for awhile, but on day 2 I made Mr. McB's lunch for him and even made him a diet coke to go. Since then, I've been trying to be nice and make his lunch along with mine every morning. :)

Mrs. Cup said...

I think this is a great idea! My husband and I did the Love Dare and we loved it!

Wendy Lee said...

Looking forward to this, love the idea, thanks for posting it!

Princess Abigail said...

Oh Megan, I failed miserably at the patience trial. I even gave up.

But I'm trying again tonight ... awareness of the task does help to bring home the truths of our behaviour doesn't it! I"m glad I'm doing this!

Right, I'm off to be kind to him now!

Savvy Mode SG said...

what a great idea. i always thank people even for the smallest gesture.